Wednesday, 12 September 2012

A love affair ends..


Today we were scammed, Shanghaied in Shanghai, taken for a ride, our generosity used against us.  And I feel sick to my stomach.

It begins with John and I finally finding People’s Square and walking around.  We found a huge amount of Chinese people standing around talking in little tents set up with pictures of people and Chinese writing.  Both John and I were intrigued with what this could be, there was nothing written in English so we just walked and looked, we both looked at each other at about the same time and said what is this??

Just as we did a young Chinese couple said, ‘You understand what is going on here?’  and so the scam begins.

This young couple explained to us how these people were for what of a better word, advertising their children in the hope for a love match.  She explained that it was not like old China where the match meant the you must be married, this was see if you like and if you get along good otherwise no pressure.

It was quiet confronting at first to see the many hundreds of posters put up explaining the person’s age, their height, their education and what they are looking for in a match.  However it was also strangely sweet that the parents sit all day and explain to potential matches about their children.  Basking in this we continue to walk around the square with our new found friends, at some point they mention they are heading to a Traditional Chinese Tea Ceremony, a ceremony that only happens for 1 month each year.  Jing (I can’t remember her name although I would like to punch the fuck out of her) explains that she is excited and would like us to come with her. 

John and I are not stupid people, John is wary of people and I tend to believe most people have good inside.  We pride ourselves that we can judge people and know when they are good or not.

Not so much today.  However this in turn lets you know how good these young people are.

We walked with them to the tea ceremony place, which was in a small building just off a main road, on the third floor, we are taken into a room which has four chairs and a Chinese lady who will conduct the ceremony.  She explains all in Chinese which our ‘friends’ interpret for us that we will be sampling 6 teas today, we are shown a price list but we are not explained it.  So the ceremony begins, it is nothing to write home about, she produces what looks like a small frog with coins on its back and washes him tea to begin with and then goes through the motion of the teas.  There is Jasmine tea, Lychee Tea, Fruit Tea, Green Tea and it finishes with a tea that is the size of a small golf ball but when immersed in warm water it opens out to a flower which then produces another flower from within.  All the teas are nice, the fruit tea is particularly nice and we taste them all and finish the tea ceremony.

Then they bring out the teas to purchase, and we notice how expensive the teas are and as they buy two bags each we purchase 1 small bag.  Then the bill comes and its over $2,000 RMB.  This is when bile rises in my throat and John looks at me with eyes larger than sauces.

They work on splitting the bill as that is what friends do in China, we do not have that much RMB on us and we eventually have to give over our credit card as the other couple have handed over cash.

Once we are back outside and our ‘friends’ leave, John turns to me and says have we just been scammed?  I honestly cannot speak, I am trying to comprehend that we just paid $180 for six cups of tea each.

It was all done extremely professionally, reading above those who say I would never have been done, you are wrong, you are wrong.  Trust me you are wrong.

We came back to our hotel and googled, Shanghai Tea Ceremony and got page after page after page of hits on scams.

We had been done, our first call was to the credit card company to cancel our card as we didn’t want any more money taken and they are going to dispute the payment (which of course) had already been put through on our card.

I hope with all inside me we can get that money back, not because we need the $180 but because I do not want those arseholes to have our money.

Today I lost all my love for China in a 30 minute Tea Ceremony.  Today I hate the Chinese, yes hate.  Everyone says that word should not be used, fuck them, that word is my friend today.

I am a person who try’s to see the best in everyone, who looks for the best in everyone and who is willing to practice English with a lovely couple we meet at The People’s Square in Shanghai.  I had a small fleeting feeling at one point walking to the ceremony what if these people are not what they say they are.  But the man was all of about 20 and slight framed I could have knocked him over with a good push so I was not in physical harm.  I was just the target of a scam.

Crime in China is low they say, and yes you don’t feel worried walking around the city or like you are in danger, but that is where they get you, its not the man lurking in the ally way you need to be worried about.  Its every single person in China, it may sound hypocritical but it is true.  The waitress at the café we eat at everyday does not chase away the man selling Prada or Rolex, but she chases away the Beggar.  Why because she doesn’t get her cut.  The policeman who sat on his arse in the bar smoking cigarettes, doesn’t chase away the man selling the knock off iphones he again chases away the beggar.  Why?  Because he cannot get a cut from a beggar.

Crime is rife, it is everywhere and we are their biggest target.  The dumb stupid western who they can sell their $5 Prada handbags to for $80 and we think we are getting a bargain, or take you to a tea ceremony and make you feel dumb.  Today they got their own back on us Westerner’s we come here looking to purchase the products we sell our resources to them for them to make into huge ticket items and sell back to us.  We think we are being clever to come and buy the knock offs that look real at the cheap prices, while they laugh at us knowing once again they are winning.

I feel sick in my stomach, I feel a distain towards them and their scams and their knock offs and their ways. 

I guess I put it on par with when someone breaks your trust, and I put this to you, trust is like a Ming Vase, once broken it can be put back together, but it will NEVER be the same.

China will never be the same to me.  I now long for Tuesday when I head back to my country and remember why I love it so much.  China you broke my heart today.

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